Seasons: Be a Child

I’ve been studying my children as I become more and more aware of my new season in life. We become quite insane when we enter our teenage years; that neurosis has just about worn off as I enter my thirties. There’s something to appreciate about entering this still lake of simply being. I have all this “time” to think, ponder, examine, converse . . .

Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding.

With this time to analyze I see wisdom forming, retrospect awakening, and the obvious usefulness of lessons learned, yet I’m also recognizing in my children what I have lost.

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Children believe what they are told, want to obey, and try to be happy at all times. I think we forget our purpose when we start our adult lives because we become so focused on ourselves and the future. We stop simply believing and obeying because we “know what’s best” to get to that future we envision.

“If you love me, you will keep my commandments.

I want to let go of my painful experiences holding me back from simply believing and obeying whilst being joyful for being alive. In this season of my life, I want to become a child of God again — not a “know it all, self-reliant, scrutinizing miser.”

Today, be a child and simply believe and obey. I hope you discover some happiness along the way.

Seasons: Embracing My Age

Intuition tells me a season of my life is over and a new one is beginning. With this realization, I find myself stuck on the change, looking backwards, trying to “figure it all out.” I’m becoming more and more like my parents and grandparents. Now, I’m the adult with children running around at family functions; I’m no longer the child running around. It’s oddly sad yet satisfying.

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The strange of it all is I don’t feel like I’m any different than I was when I was five, ten, or fourteen. The same self-doubt, insecurities, impulses, want, and need exists in my being as it did decades ago. I’m in awe of time desperately trying not to cling to a version of myself I wanted to be but never became.

Instead, I cling to my God, my books, and my coffee cup. We have seasons in our lives to remind us we are human. This life is not the “all” we were searching to obtain. It’s temporary, yet time is forever. God is forever. A deep sadness exists in me for those who never accept this truth. Aging is this difficult for me when I have God to hold me. To whom do they cling?

So teach us to number our days that we may get a heart of wisdom. Psalm 90_12

Perhaps, I will learn to truly find peace in knowing my life is short here on earth, but everlasting in Heaven. I’m not afraid to admit this fault; I love life, and I don’t want to grow older. In this series, I will explore my need to accept age and all that it possesses. Mine is a truly surprise attack that crept up out of nowhere. I’m trying not to panic.

How to Keep the Peace in Every Situation

Attitude is everything! God never promised life would be easy, free, or even happy; He only ever promised salvation through Jesus Christ. You ask for it, you receive it, but then what? How do we keep the peace throughout our lives when it’s so easy to get swept up in this world of pain and discomfort?

Remember that we have so much for which to be grateful and so little to fear because God keeps his promise; it never ceases or changes. He promised us salvation, and it is our only true need.

Our attitudes should be grateful and UNafraid.

Our attitude towards this world should be that of a truly blessed being because we are saved. Whatever pain we go through is temporary and salvation is eternal. In all things be like Christ and be truly grateful for the best gift of all. Do not fear the pain, struggles, discomfort, and strife because it will not last. 

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Keeping the peace in all situations is simply living as a Christian — a follower of Jesus Christ. Our attitudes should be grateful and unafraid.


One can always find peace in God’s promise.

How to Keep the Peace When You’re in Pain

We’ve all been hurt by someone or something in our lives. Not everyone has endured what another has, and we can’t all have had the same reactions to painful situations; nevertheless, we have all cried out in pain.

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Going through my divorce wasn’t exactly easy. I remember being relieved the relationship was over, but I hurt for my children. The situation was less than ideal, and the stress and pain from it tore me up. I would cry in the middle of the night in my sleep. I weighed a whole 101 lbs. I couldn’t concentrate in my college classes. Playing with my children was made more difficult. When a mother divorces, it isn’t just the end of a relationship; it’s the beginning of a new way of life — single parenthood. Being young, in school, and mothering two little ones while living in my father’s house was not an easy time in my life. Having gone through it, I know now why and how God will use me because of this part of my past, but it was painful.

What I wish I had been mature enough to have decided to do was to seek Christ while I was going through this pain. Instead, I turned away from God, angry at this hand I was dealt. I felt betrayed by Him and the people I loved. Slowly, as I crawled out of that hole, I began to trust God again.

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When you’re going through painful adjustments and circumstances in your life, remember that God is a healer. Cling to Him; call out to Him. Trust the Lord even when it isn’t convenient. I neglected to acknowledge that God is the one in charge. I forgot that He has a specific plan just for me, and I need to trust Him. Whatever you’re going through, hold on to the hope God promised.

How to Keep the Peace During Conflict

Conflict never arises when we’re prepared, expecting it, or at our convenience. Stories abound from my past as warnings to my future self reminding me of how not to react to conflict. I avoid it at all cost. I was very much bullied in high school, and the last emotion I would ever want to relive is anything remotely close to how I felt in those days; nevertheless, conflict is a part of human life. 


As an adult, I’m not exactly being stalked in the hallways, or met at my locker for yet another “confrontation,” but moments occur when I have to face another person who is being unfair, unrealistic, or just plain mean. How do we keep the peace when someone is trying to attack?

When we are hurt by others, we have to look to God for help, be like Christ, and remember to forgive.

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Being good neighbors isn’t just about smiling and waving to the nice old man who lives next door; although, I’m sure he appreciates that smile and wave, it isn’t exactly hard to do. It’s more difficult to smile and wave at the lady who ran over your mailbox and sped off down the road. It’s difficult to ask, “how are you” when you know that person has been talking about you negatively, or when a coworker tries to undermine you and get you reprimanded in order to look better herself. Imagine a friend stealing, a neighbor infringing on your privacy, or people ganging up on you on social media.

I bring up this last one in particular because I witnessed it just a few days ago. Going through FB posts on my feed, I came across a post with a lot of comments. Naturally, I scrolled down to see what it was all about. It started with a rant from a woman about other women (why is this part of our culture?), and other women started harping on the same subject. Then someone who is actually going through the subject being judged decided she would chime in to try and advocate for women going through this particular hardship. Well, what I saw next was plain flat-out appalling! These grown women were resorting to name calling, slut-shaming, finger pointing, and down-right nasty cyber bullying. I was shocked as memories and emotions from my past started finding their way into my world once again.


Some where along the way, some of us lost our grace, while others of us went through awful experiences and learned to sympathize with others. The only advice I have to offer when you’re going through a conflict is that you decide to be on the side of grace — sympathize with others, don’t judge or shame someone. Be a peacemaker by not thinking about it as a win or lose situation. It truly is one of those moments to stop and ask yourself, “What would Jesus do.”

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Even if it’s just a petty argument you’ve had with your neighbor over property lines or barking dogs, just think about how good you’ve got it; it could truly be so much worse. Be thankful for all the things from which God has kept you, and be on the side of grace when being confronted by another. We must deal with conflict showing love and forgiveness just as Christ taught us.